My and my friend have known each other for like 19 years. We were the best of friends, but since college started (last year and we go to different colleges) we are no longer that close. His personality/attitude has changed quite a bit. He now seems to concentrate completely on his new life and is making almost no effort to keep in touch with his past. We barely talk now. When I message him, he is usually away (or ignoring me?), and when he messages me, we'd only talk for like 2 minutes before he goes away (or stops replying). Also, half the time that he messages me, he ask about someone else. What should I do? Should I try to make a better effort to keep in touch with him, or should I just forget it? Thanks.Advice on best friend, please help.?
I've been there before and all I can tell you is that you should make your best attempt to talk to him face to face and tell him what you are going through right now and letting him know how much does his friendship means to you. Don't expect things to get solved right away, give it time, let him sleep over it (the whole month if necessary) and you go on with your life, work on yourself. And when you least expect it and most need it, he'll be back. Trust me, I've been through what you are going through. Good Luck,Advice on best friend, please help.?
College is a weird, crazy, exciting time where you're trying to navigate things and figure out who you are and what's important. Many people use college as a way to establish themselves. That's probably what you're friend is doing. He's being a jerk because he's trying to navigate college life. You'll find that many of your friends will change, but the ones that truly matter are the ones who you can be away from for months and months, but go back to and still have a great time with. Give him his space and let him figure things out, and in the meantime, figure out some stuff on your own too. I'm sure that once he grows more comfortable in his new environment, he'll start to be the friend he once was.
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