Wednesday, July 28, 2010

Very Tough situation with my best friend, i fear for him, advice needed

My best friend and i have been friends for 15 years, we are 22,23 year old males. growing up we were always against drugs, smoking, drinking. my friends father is an extreme alcoholic who is in terrible condition and got fired from his job years ago. my friend goes to school and work while also taking care of his preteen nephews because his sister(there mother) is incapable of tending to them all the time, so the chore falls on him. recently it has been brought to my attention that my best friend has been hanging out with a 19 year old male who used to do marijuana and drugs when he was 16,17,18 but has supposedly stopped now, this person dropped out of community college and hangs out with other questionable people some much older(40's). my friend recently told me he drinks smirnoff(after his father is an alcoholic) my friend said he values my friendship but doesnt want me to tell him what to do, because he is a 22 year old adult. his personality is shy an quiet and is a huge follower, when with others. im fearful for my friends safety when he is around this one person because if he did marijuana at 16, who knows what else he is capable of, and i am also fearful that he is befriending my best friend cause he sees he has a steady job and is a follower and maybe he feels he can convince him with his assets to 'help him out' doing stuff illegally. i am friendly with my friends mother and want to tell her about this, i already talked to my friend and he said everything will be fine and not to tell him what to do, but he is acting very differently than years past and again im fearful for his safety. should i tell his mother about this knowing it could get the situation resolved, i am not afraid of losing him as a friend cause he wants to be my friend more than the other way, ive always looked out for him cause of his growing up and shy personality, i feel i need to do something now, please anyone, advice is so needed and appreciated, please help me with this, its stressing me out immensely and i cant sleep. thanks.Very Tough situation with my best friend, i fear for him, advice needed
First off, stick to being his friend. People go through phases where they sometimes hang otu with less desirable people, it's a bit of kinda seeign what a different lifestyle would be like. Even though alot of people may do this, not many stick around with those other people, and they typically end up resorting back to their older friends. If you tell his mom, I think it would just help to push him away from you and closer to the other guy, so try to keep it just between you and him when you talk about it. Also, try inviting him do do more thigns with you and pther people you like(I'm not sure how much he hangs out with you or with the other guy, so yeah).








Hey, I have a issue with my best friend as well....


http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>Very Tough situation with my best friend, i fear for him, advice needed
the way i see it, and i'm not just saying this to be funny, you have two options. you can just keep being his friend no matter what he does, and let him know how you feel about what he's doing. or you can just let him go. let him live his life the way he wishes. if he is your friend, and he wants to be your friend, he will come back to you. if he is your friend and you try to 'rule' or direct his life for him you may drive him farther away.
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